Should We Label our Friendships?


The phone rang, breaking the silence in the room. Cora looked up from her book to check the phone and to her pleasure saw that it was her closest and dearest friend Amia. Cora would never send those calls to voicemail. They speak every week to catch up with the good, the bad, and the ugly stuff that life chooses to deal them. After about an hour or so, the ladies covered Amia's new boyfriend and Cora's newfound choice to stay single. Amia's frustration with her boss and Cora's recent promotion. They gossiped about family, shared some recipes, and discussed Cora's weird dream from the night before. Amia was great at interpreting dreams. "Amia," Cora begins but hesitates a bit. Amia knows better than to interrupt and gives Cora time to complete her thought. "Thanks for listening. You know… you're my soul sister… my person.'' "Duh, of course, I wouldn't expect any less. Plus, we know way too much about one another. We're bound to each other for all eternity," Amia lovingly jokes. "Seriously, I do love you." "I love you too. More than yesterday and even more tomorrow." Cora hangs up after wishing Amia a lovely evening and making plans to meet up on the weekend. She returns to her book with a positive and calming sense of being.


Cora's phone notifications sounded, alerting her to a text message. She glanced; it was her neighbor Dakota. They met two years ago when Cora bought the house, and both were walking their dogs one morning. Obi and Winnie the Cockapoo hit it off, and so did the ladies. They shared a love for books, and Cora was invited to join the neighborhood book club. The text message read, "Hello my friend. I hope all is well. Checking in to make sure I'll be seeing you this Thursday for this month's book review. I'm looking forward to discussing all the juicy details. I always enjoy hearing what you have to say. Don't tell the other ladies, though. They may get jealous. LOL. I'm assigned desserts this round and just making sure with you and everyone else that Tiramisu is to your liking. Let me know, and TTYL." Cora smiled and immediately responded, "Hello, right back at you, my friend! I'm on the last chapter of the book, and I'm in dire need of getting all my thoughts out on these characters. You know me so well. I'm just glad that you're willing to listen to me ramble. I think I told you once that my favorite dessert is Tiramisu, so with that said, you're like the perfect boyfriend. And no worries, the ladies will never know. See you on Thursday!" Cora returns to the last chapter of the assigned book. Smiling, she thinks about how nice it is to have a friend in the neighborhood and how grateful she is to have met Dakota. She thanks Obi for that meeting.

 

Here are two scenarios that many of us would hope to experience within our own realm of friendships. A close, trusted friend that we confide all our innermost feelings with, and a friend we share a love for something in particular with. Sometimes we have ONE individual that encompasses both types of friendships, or we have various individuals to fit that bill.


Interestingly, I was challenged to dig deep into what I thought was a "friend", and what I initially thought would be a simple task turned out to be a difficult personal examination on the topic that took me a few weeks to put into words. Overall, in my research, I have discovered that the term "friend" is relative to the person or persons that encompass the relationship. We all fill that space or need that space filled somewhat differently from one another, hence leaving the definition of "friend" open for personal interpretation.